Marriage Counseling: Would you rather be right? or be happy?

How it Started

I’ll never forget when working with a client who I really enjoy working with said to me, “Why does she have to be such a bitch?” Well I said, I can say she is, but would you rather be happy, or rather be right?

What it means?

It means hey, you can complain your wife is a bitch, and everything you say may be right, maybe, but let’s keep it real, if you are in the room, and want to make your marriage better, would you rather be right or happy?

The Choice: Choice 1 Being Right

Being right means likely arguing, or even worse just not even resolving any issue or the REAL Reason why your wife is being a bitch.

It just means, yes, she is being a bitch, ok great, I guess I can agree, but that is not at all going to help your marriage

Choice 2: I’d rather be happy 

Let me be perfectly clear, this does not me, be a do-boy, pushover, or just comply with the old phrase happy wife, happy life. 

No, what it really means, the things your wife says or does are reasons, and you take the time and genuine interest to find out what she is bothered at, annoyed at, and what you did or said to make her feel that way. 

To take it to the next step it means when we are working together, we are working toward solutions YOU can do, to make your wife, or girlfriend the happy, sweet loving woman toward you, you fell in love with and married. 

The bottom line is being right, or being happy, is about how we want to show up in the room as we work together.

Would you rather use the room to vent, and empty your emotional gas tank? Sure, you can and it is welcomed. 

Then, you have to figure it out, we either work together to do the little things (and trust me they are little) that add up to slowly turn your marriage or relationship around, or we just sit there and go what a bitch. 

Personally, I love and am fascinated with marriage and relationships, and the little things we can do, to truly have a great, amazing, and loving marriage and relationship.

The Bottom Line

The bottom line is if she is angry, or a bitch, it’s because she is feeling a certain way, and face it, she is feeling that way because of your word’s, and actions/inactions.

Personally, I choose happiness, as long as I truly want to be with that person and love that person, and if you still love and want to be with that person, then I highly suggest choosing happiness over being right. 

Once you do, let’s take a look at those little things that add up to a great, healthy, and amazing marriage. L

et’s look at those little day to day things, because they add up to you choosing happiness. 

Next Steps

So Shoot me an email with any comments, or suggestions, or even questions. 

As I start out with this blog and business, I encourage you all to come along and grow with me. 

If you’d like, you can schedule a free-15 minute phone call, just so I can hear your story, and see how I can help, and if we can work together. 

For now my rates are only cash based starting at 100.00/session (50 Minutes). 

My story will slowly come out, more importantly if you are reading this blog, I hope one day to pay my story forward, hear about yours, and be there along the way.