Just Put it Out There

What it Means?

Life is simple, we make it complicated. What it really means? Whatever it is that you want, whether it is a date, or even asking someone for help, or a day or two off from work. Just put it out there and ask.

First a Personal Example:

The other day I wanted to surprise my girl by joining her on vacation, as I surprised her with my own plane ticket. Of course I was nervous to surprise her, but I said whatever, and just put it out there, here you go, here’s the ticket. Whatever I get back in return, I get back.

What it might look like for you?

Perhaps you are married, or in a relationship and are just tired of your partner speaking over you, or worse yelling at or over you. After months or even years naturally filled with emotions such as frustration, anger, or just nerves about even bringing it up, and an uncertainty about what will happen, when you do.

How to put it out there?

Be simple, direct, and feel cool and calm about it. Grab your partner during some normal time of the routine, whether it is dinner, watching Love is Blind, Deaf or Dumb…, or even just doing laundry. Put it out there, “Hey I’ve been thinking about when we argue, or even just disagree. I notice you’ll yell or speak over me. I want to be clear, I’m not bringing this up at all in any way to argue, at the same time it is important for me to share this with you, just so we can both do better for each other.

And then…Wait for the Response:

If your partner responds with, “What are you talking about,” or “Why are you starting,” then I am sorry to say you have a much bigger problem, you have a partner who does not listen, or even care to listen.

On the Other Hand

If you’re partner responds with, you know what you’re right I do have a tendency to do that sometimes, my bad, I am really going to try not to next time we are speaking, disagreeing, or even arguing. I’m really sorry I do that. I don’t want you to feel this way because I yell over you, my bad. Then there is definitely potential for an even better and more loving relationship!

In Summation:

Put it out there, whatever it is that you want, a day off, a date, or just simply a better action or way of showing up from your husband/wife. Do it but be calm, cool, almost judgment free, and just seeing what you put out there, and what the other person responds with. Put it out there and see what comes back.

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