Easy Marriage Counseling

An Open Letter To You About Your Marriage
by Dr. Max Vogt

Let me be candid and get straight to the point.

Here’s some bad news: If you don’t follow the guidance I give you here, I can promise you that the problems in your marriage will get worse. Things won’t “just stay the same,” they will get a lot worse.

The Good News: If you follow the guidance in this presentation you’ll be able to meet every problem or challenge in your marriage… and rapidly create positive changes in your relationship.

This Formula That Never Fails must be taught and learned in a very specific way, or it won’t work. If you skip any of the steps or do them in the wrong order it won’t work. It’s amazingly easy, like riding a bicycle, but just like riding a bicycle if you don’t do certain things in a certain way, you will fall down or crash.

You may think you’ve heard it all and maybe even tried it all when trying to deal with the problems in your marriage, but you’ve never heard of the Formula, or the Science of Happy Marriage before.

The Formula is NOT Anything You’ve Heard Before!

So let me tell you what the Formula is NOT

·     The Formula is NOT the usual routine of doing embarrassing and ineffective exercises; it’s not about re-hashing your relationship history or endlessly going over the same old tired complaints.

·     The Formula is NOT about expressing all your feelings, or about “expressing your needs.” It’s not anything about “fighting fair” or repeating certain words to each other over and over again, nor about going to a “relationship counselor.”

·     It’s NOT about finding your compatibility through tests like the ones you see advertised to tell you if you are “meant for each other.” It’s not astrology.

·     It’s NOT about “how to get your man back” nor about how to keep a man, nor about how to please him in bed nor about how to get “your woman” to have better orgasms.

·     It’s NOT about going to therapy or marriage counseling. It’s not about going to weekend marriage improvement workshops with each other. It’s not about taking antidepressants. It’s not about figuring out and sticking to a budget or becoming better co-parents.

·     It’s NOT about forgiving your partner for past sins, nor extracting promises from him or her about how they will behave in the future. It’s not about “moving on.”

·     It’s NOT about personal private psychotherapy to “get your head straight,” nor about “taking responsibility for your actions.”

·     It’s NOT about finding your soul mate.

·     It’s NOT about figuring out whose fault it is that you have problems in your marriage.

·     The Formula is NOT about “love languages” or about how men and women are different or from different planets.

·     It’s NOT about yoga, meditation, “aligning your chakras,” body work, regression, hypnosis, going vegan to manage your internal aggression, becoming more conscious of your feminine or masculine side.

·     It’s NOT about getting advice from your friends and relatives, or Dr. Phil. It’s not about just going around telling each other I love you.

·     It’s NOT about compromising your values or personality or “settling” for an unsatisfying relationship.

·     The Formula is NOT about communicating more or more often. It’s not about just “finding more time for each other.” It’s not about intimacy exercises or improving your sex life.

All those things can help in their own way - a little - but they won’t permanently solve your marriage problems or get you to a happy marriage. All of those things are looking at the “trees” and not the “forest.” As in “you can’t see the forest for the trees.”

You Can’t Solve The Problems in Your Marriage,
By Focusing on “Problems in Your Marriage!”

The Formula works to a large degree because it gets you seeing the forest and not the trees.

The simple and practical methods I will share with you here have already helped over 21,000 couples in 9 countries solve their marriage problems- in record time - without marriage counseling.

Most of those couples had considered divorce because of problems they feared were impossible to solve. And these methods can help you too. As a matter of fact they cannot fail to solve marital problems - no matter what they are - as long as you follow the Formula.

Many of them had already given up on their marriages because of affairs, disagreements, fighting, troubles with the in-laws, differences in parenting styles, financial challenges or simply a loss of interest in one another.

Divorce is expensive and damaging, but dissatisfaction and unhappiness in marriage can be even more damaging to your children - and to you - than divorce!

Don’t Try to Pretend You’re Happy

· Unhappiness in marriage causes stress, problems sleeping, poor digestion, irritability, emotionality and lots of behaviors you aren’t proud of as well as large range of other emotional and physical health problems. It’s really a killer.

· Don’t think you can pretend to be happy around the children or your friends or family, because your unhappiness is like a giant billboard to everyone around you, and causes everyone pain and suffering.

Everybody in the World Wants to Be
Happily Married,
No Matter What They Say

Everybody deep down wants one thing more than anything else in the whole world, and that’s to be happily married.

Yes, most people want to have more money, be better looking, lose weight, have a job they like, etc. But ultimately none of that matters unless you are in a happy marriage.

You’ll Never Be Happy in Life Until
You are Happily Married

No matter what your other conditions are you won’t be really satisfied in life unless you are happily married. You may be the richest person in the world but if you’re alone - without a loving partner - you will be miserable deep down inside.

Being happily married is superior to any other human condition. You can be healthy, young, strong, rich, powerful, talented, famous and respected, but if you’re not happy in marriage, the rest of it has no meaning.

On the other hand, you can be sickly, old, poor, weak, unknown and without talents, but if you are deeply and fully happy in your marriage, you are fortunate and richer - and more blessed - than with any of those other conditions.

If you are not happily married you will always be to some degree profoundly lost, confused and lonely.

You may have a wonderful relationship with your children or friends or family, but it’s not the same as that true, intimate deep relationship that is only possible in marriage. Every other relationship is limited by conditions. Only true marriage offers the opportunity for the ultimate lasting, complete human experience.

This is why you need a complete solution to all future problems NOW.

The Longer You Put It Off,
The Worse It’s Going to Get

Because the longer problems fester without solution, the worse they get. If you’ve been sitting on disagreements, misunderstandings, jealousies, the fallout of affairs, disloyalties, problems with in-laws, or any other problems, it’s only going to get worse if you don’t make a change NOW.

So… HOW? Let’s talk about what happiness in a marriage IS first.

Every married person in the world absolutely needs 4 things in marriage to be happy. Not a single one of these can be missing.

These four things spell out an acronym, “LOVE.”

L stands for “Loyalty”
O stands for “Openness”
V stands for “Valuing”
E stands for “Equality”

The power of these “BIG FOUR” is the core of all great intimate relationships. Without them you can’t even BEGIN to face the problems and challenges that inevitably come up in long-term relationships.

So as I review the BIG FOUR think about your marriage… how are you doing in these four areas?

L stands for LOYALTY… You truly feel that your partner is dedicated completely to you in the marriage, and you to your partner.

It means consistently feeling that your partner is on your side, for you, would always stand up for you…
faithfulness sexually and emotionally… support of one another’s individual needs and desires… having fun together and making efforts to have fun together

Loyalty means you don’t embarrass one another in front of family, friends or in-laws…. You are loyal both in private and in public…You NEVER put each other down.

O is for “Openness” – where you feel that your partner is fully present to you and honest with you…

This means open and honest communication… Intimacy both physical and emotional… sexually and with word… attention to and care for each other… your relationship is your TOP priority in life… You pay attention to one another rather than taking each other for granted… ROMANCE… however you define that.

Openness means telling the TRUTH to each other. It means being honest but also taking responsibility for yourself and your actions.

Openness means accepting your partner and not blaming them… it means accepting their changes over your life together and not “boxing them in.”

V is for “Valuing” - You feel that your partner knows, likes, understands and appreciates you as a person and as a partner.

Valuing means appreciation… appreciation for one another’s uniqueness and individuality … appreciation for each other’s contributions to marriage and the family… appreciation for the marriage itself and how it contributes to your wellbeing… and also it means having fun separately and together

E is for “Equality” - You feel that you share a true partnership – both of you contributing effort, talents and heart to the marriage.

Equality means sharing the load… it means making decisions together with equality…

It means making sure that money, time and tasks – the essences of everyday life – are shared equally…Equality means partnership. Partnership in parenting, finances, running the household and otherwise.

Now if you DO have those BIG FOUR working well in your marriage, you can face any and all challenges that come up in your marriage and life together...

· If you DON’T have those BIG FOUR working well in your marriage, you can’t face anything well, and you will never be happy with yourself or with one another in your marriage. Period.

LOYALTY + OPENNESS + VALUING + EQUALITY = LOVE

You have to have all four areas working correctly. It’s like driving a car. You may have a great engine that runs fantastically, but if you have no brakes you can’t safely drive. You may have a very beautiful car, but if it won’t start you aren’t going anywhere. And if the steering is broken or you have flat tires you can’t go anywhere… Everything works together.

That brings me to the Forest and the Trees, and why all the usual methods for solving marital problems don’t work. Most therapists and authors and advice givers make the same mistake. They focus on the trees and not the forest.

If you focus on the trees you don’t see the forest.

Let’s think about our driving comparison again and why people crash. If there’s an obstruction in the road such as a car that has spun out, something that has fallen on the road out of a truck or a tree limb or rock, the way you avoid it is by focusing on the way around it. If you look at the obstruction, you’ll crash into it.

Your energy moves toward the place where you focus your attention. It’s a universal law of human psychology and human energy.

When you focus on problems in your marriage or your own personal growth, you just collide with them… you don’t “fix” them.

Your brain is extremely good at directing energy wherever you tell it to focus. If you choose to stay mad at someone, for example, the brain will keep your heartbeat elevated, your muscles tense, your emotions stirred up, your speech and breath patterns sharp and tense…

Or if you decide to give up on something which has frustrated you, your brain will begin to shut down your body and make everything feel heavy like you are in molasses and you just start to collapse.

If You Focus on Problems, You CREATE Problems

It’s all about what you focus on. That’s why I always say that the harder you try, try, try to solve your marriage problems, the worse they are going to get. When you focus on problems… You actually create MORE problems… and WORSE problems. And eventually you crash.

Now I have a confession to make of my own.

For much of my 30 years of work as a psychologist and marriage counselor, I made the same “mistake.”

I got caught up in the “problems fixing” business.

I’ve created dozens of programs over the years which have sold thousands of copies and helped many thousands of couples have happier marriages.

You can see many examples of my products and programs in the video above. I won’t go over them here.

I also won’t go over the many comments from individuals and couples – testimonials they have sent in to me.

You can watch the video to see those, I just want to continue my letter to you here, because it’s URGENT!!

I’m proud of every one of these programs. They really helped people. BUT they focused on TREES and not the forest.

Most Therapists Do NOT Believe in You!
I DO Believe in You!

Most therapists are OK with this because they are trained to work with problems. And most therapists don’t expect these solutions to be permanent, and don’t believe there is a “permanent” solution.

They are wrong. There is a solution which is permanent and fast acting. The Formula is 100% effective in solving ALL marital problems if used properly, and at the same time is ASTONISHINGLY EASY to use, requires almost NO time commitment

This program breaks through EVERY resistance, every form of negativity, doubt, frustration, confusion, and every way that people get side-tracked when they try to make changes in their marriage.

The name of my new program is The Science of Happy Marriage: The New Breakthrough Relationship Formula…

· I am so certain about the power of this program to automatically and simply solve all your marital problems that I have now taken ALL my other programs offline.

I’m very proud of them, but The FORMULA makes all other relationship programs, books and products obsolete.

So let’s talk about what “happens” in the program. First of all, 95% of ALL you do is just listen to some pleasant audio recordings. You can listen to them on your computer, Ipod or burn a CD.

The Program Requires No Effort
And Yet Works Every Time!

And as you listen, this is what happens, spontaneously and automatically, with NO EFFORT on your part

·     You’ll feel dedication and commitment from your partner in ways you couldn’t have imagined before… deeper and more complete than your highest expectations.

·     You’ll feel loyalty and commitment toward your partner at a depth that you didn’t expect… your commitment and your partner’s will far exceed your expectations.

·     This level of profound loyalty and commitment will “stick” and become a permanent and ever deepening experience you will have through the rest of your life together.

·     Communication between you and your partner will open up so completely and easily that you will be literally stunned.   Communication will start to flow easily.

·     Desire for each other will grow and deepen automatically.

·     Romance will flower almost magically between you on levels that go far beyond anything that happened when you were first together.

·     Truth will be a powerful new and ever present part of your marriage.

·     You’ll see the inner beauty of your partner in ways you never noticed before.

·     You will feel fully appreciated by your partner for who you REALLY are... Imagine how that will feel.

·     You’ll fall in love all over again with that amazing feeling of discovering a new soul mate.

·     You’ll laugh with delight about the brand new awakening of your marriage.

·     You’ll feel sexual desire for your partner more deeply and in ways you could never have imagined before.

·     You’ll feel true pride in your marriage and in your partner that you’ve never felt before.

… And all by merely listening to some audios and reading a little bit of text.

This is the Only Program You Will EVER NEED!

The Science of Happy Marriage is the only relationship program you will ever need… it’s the product of over 30 years of research, testing and proven results.

And you can download and begin to enjoy the results in minutes from now, and at an amazingly low price.

I normally charge up to $200 for a single hour of marriage counseling in my office. I often meet people for 10 sessions or so ($2,000 in fees), and it’s worth every penny. People tell me this all the time.

But now for you, I have something extra special.

I was going to charge $697 for this program.

When I did this program with a live test group, I charged $997 for a one-day group meeting. People had to drive or fly to the seminar site, pay lodging overnight, meals and other costs. They happily paid over $1,000 for this experience you are about to experience.

However, their experience of this was not as good as yours will be, since they weren’t able to download this program and listen to it over and over again like you will.

So I think $697 is completely fair for the only relationship program you’ll ever need. But because of current economic conditions, I decided to lower the price to $497.

However, I do want the Science of Happy Marriage to help as many people as possible, so I decided to temporarily lower the price to $197. This price will NOT last.

Now what all are you getting for this low, discounted price of $197? Everything I will later be offering for $697!

This is a complete multi-media package including audio, video, text and Personalized Coaching Message Series for SIX MONTHS!

First of all, you will receive a QuickStart Guide showing you how to get the FASTEST results from the FORMULA. Value $27 all by itself.

Next…

You’ll download the text version of the Science of Happy Marriage. You can enjoy this on your computer or your pdf reader or even print it out so you can read the text anywhere you like. Value: $97 on its own.

Next…

You will download the complete AUDIO of the program, narrated personally by me. It’s very important that you get this narrated by me, since I know where to put the emphasis and on what words.

I’m dedicated to making this work RIGHT for you the FIRST TIME. I would normally charge between $397 and $497 for these recordings alone, and you receive them as part of your Science of Happy Marriage package.

Next…

I can only refer to this as the A.G.M. It can dramatically speed up your progress if you want to use it. This one I’ve sold by itself for $47. You’ll get the details once you order.

And…

This is a bonus I have NEVER offered before, nor even considered it, but I decided to do this to GUARANTEE your success.

I’m going to be sending you Personal Coaching Messages, directly to your inbox, TWICE every week for SIX FULL MONTHS. That’s right, a personal COACHING message directly from me, Dr. Max, giving you personal guidance and direction on using the FORMULA in your every day life.

This is from ME, not from one of my staff!

Many people consider this the core of the program and the most important part of it… because of the ongoing SUPPORT and ENCOURAGEMENT and GUIDANCE you’ll receive in these coaching messages.

Now what would I usually charge to write a personal marriage coaching message to someone TWICE A WEEK for SIX FULL MONTHS? Let’s say I spent 1 hour a week writing the two coaching messages. 1 hour of my time in marriage counseling now goes for $200…

Six months is 24 weeks… so 24 X 200 is $4,800 VALUE over the six months period.

So let’s total up the value you receive for $197

The Quick Start Guide: Value $27
The Book: Value $97
The Recordings: $497
The “A.G.M”: $47
Six Full Months of Coaching Messages: $4,800
Total Value: $5,468

Yours Today for $197

I actually had never totaled up the Value of this Complete Program, and when I saw that total of $5,468 I thought… I am definitely under-pricing the Program. I’ll keep the price at $197 for now, but I’m sure I’ll increase it soon. I urge you to get this program at the lowest price I’ll ever offer it at.

Relax… there’s no risk, it’s guaranteed!

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